Starting a new school is a huge step.
For some, it’s exciting — a fresh start, new friends, new opportunities.
For others, it’s nerve-wracking — unfamiliar faces, a new routine and the nagging worry of “Will I fit in?”
As parents, we can’t take away every worry, but we can help our children feel more prepared, confident and steady for the big step. Here is Part 1 of a two-part guide to help you focus on what matters most.
The emotional side of starting a new school is just as important as the practical side and is often overlooked.
Big changes can trigger anxiety, especially if your child struggles with confidence or finds change hard.
Let them know it’s completely normal to feel nervous, even for children who usually adapt quickly. You might say, “Lots of people feel wobbly starting somewhere new — even adults do.”
Find moments where your child feels relaxed – maybe in the car, at bedtime, or during a walk – and ask open questions like, “What’s the part you’re most looking forward to?” or “Is there anything you’re worried about?”
Listen more than you speak. Avoid quick reassurances that can unintentionally shut down the conversation.
If they mention a worry — “I don’t know anyone” — you can acknowledge it and then offer a balancing thought: “That’s true, but it also means you can make new friends.”
A trial run of the journey to school, walking around the outside of the building or looking at the school’s website can help them feel less daunted on day one.
Roleplay simple scenarios like introducing themselves or asking to join in a game at break time. This can take the edge off awkward first moments.
Changes in sleep, appetite, mood, or behaviour can signal that your child is feeling overwhelmed. If these persist for more than a couple of weeks, consider speaking with their teacher, GP, or a mental health professional.
